I just thought about you when I came across this article from the Family Online Safety Institute's 2009 Annual Conference in Washington D.C. The theme this year was "Building a Culture of Responsibility: From Online Safety to Digital Citizenship".
http://sexualintelligence.wordpress.com/2009/11/07/protecting-kids-on-line-a-growth-industry/
And now I see that your Marian attended the same event from her blog.
I see everyone pretty much has the same message: To talk to our kids and come to an understanding together. Not to lead by fear and create a dictatorship.